Finding Forrester—the Gift of Friendship
One of my favorite ways to unwind is watching movies. I love a good story, and one of my favorite stories is found in the movie “Finding Forrester” from the year 2000. I’ll give you a short synopsis—Sean Connery stars as reclusive author William Forrester, he meets a young city kid named Jamal, and the two of them experience the unlikely gift of friendship as William helps Jamal with his writing. If you haven’t seen it, I highly recommend it!
Just like William and Jamal discovered in their story, our lives are better lived in the company of true, authentic friends, even at work.
Now, I could stop there and generally claim that’s true. But if I do, I’m missing something. I’m overlooking a harsh reality of our world — we live in a world full of tension, and that tension can cost us our friendships. Here’s why I think so.
A Lone Wolf World
Today, we’re in tension because we’re tempted to work and live as a lone wolf. Being known by others, even at work, can be easy to avoid if you want to. We can be glued to our smartphones, playing the newest app, or swiping through our email in a nanosecond. In doing so, we shut out any and all chances of friendship.
So the temptation is there — you can be all by yourself if you so choose. But just because it’s easier now to live in our own little bubble, should we?
I’ll take a moment here to pause for dramatic effect...
Alright, the drama is over.
I believe the lives we want, work or otherwise, are brought about when we are in authentic relationships with others. In fact, I’d argue we are divinely designed to be in relationship. For me, I am a Christian; I own that, and it informs my perspective on the world. And in being a Christian, I have to face the Truth of Scripture again and again that God has made me to be in a close, intimate relationship with Him. There’s something else in that, too — I face the reality that something is off-balance when I’m not in relationship with God and with others.
Being in ongoing relationships with other people is how we’ve been made, faith or lack of faith. When we do life with good, authentic friends, we are at our best, including the work we do each day.
The Way Forward
I never want to write something here and not include the truth for us understand and a place for hope. With that, then, here’s the truth to understand — our lives are better lived in the company of true, authentic friends. We are made to be truly known by someone else, and that truth goes beyond your faith or lack of faith.
And now, hope — relationships are worth the risk. I promise you, the life you’re after is not confined to the muted-gray walls of your cubicle. No, in fact, it’s lived out in Friday night game nights, in hour-long catch-up sessions at the coffee shop, and in the hard days when tragedy strikes. Living your life alone is not the answer. Change only comes when you take the risk and get in relationship with other people.
Take the risk. Let others in, and find the life you’re looking for.
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